How to help someone with babies in special care

Send an email or text to let us know that you are thinking about us

Remember I am a person not just the mother of premature babies!  Same for Daddy too. 

Listen to us, but don’t be offended if we don’t want to talk

Be patient with us, we are feeling hurt and pain and anger as well as love and pride for our new arrivals

Don’t ask us what we need doing as we often have no spare energy to think of the things that seem obvious to everyone else

Send tiny clothes and soft toys for the babies to brighten up their hospital space

Write letters and cards that can be read to the babies and perhaps tell them who you are to them

Although you may not be able to visit the babies you can visit the parents in the hospital for a chat and a cup of tea, to break up their day

Posh handcream – I have never washed my hands so many times in all my life!

Cook them a meal or take them out for food

Give them time and space when they bring their babies home to get used to being a family

Don’t be offended if you are asked not to visit for a while

Keep on sending messages of support but don’t always expect something in return just know that your messages are wanted, needed and warmly received.  Thank you x

5 Responses to How to help someone with babies in special care

  1. Sam says:

    My little girl Imogen was born at 31 weeks weighing 2lb 12oz, your story reminds me of just what it is like with a baby on the NNU and just how hard but rewarding it can be. My daughter will be 8 in November and is just adorable, she is perfect in every way as are your gorgeous babies Esther and Will, I will continue to follow your beautiful story but wish you all the very best for your future family life once those lovely babies are home with their mummy and daddy.

    • willest says:

      Thank you so much. We are taking one day at a time. Long days and yet time is moving on quite quickly. Esther and William are one month old today!

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  3. Rebecca says:

    You are soooo right about the handcream! I was given some from work when I went on maternity leave and thought ‘what the hell’… but it soon came into use!

    Thank you for popping by my blog, I have bookmarked yours and will do an update with more info on the Multiples Mayhem Carnival soon 🙂

  4. superlittlemen says:

    Really like this, wish something like this had been around when we went through the experience. My first was born at 31 wks, 2lb 9oz and my 2nd at 34 at a massive 4lb 9oz! It’s been a rocky road but I have 2 fab boys age 7 & 4 now. Bliss was a life to me as well and I still check in there now & ask advice when needed. Handcream to me is now essential, all the handwashing strips your hands & mine never really recovered.

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