Send an email or text to let us know that you are thinking about us
Remember I am a person not just the mother of premature babies! Same for Daddy too.
Listen to us, but don’t be offended if we don’t want to talk
Be patient with us, we are feeling hurt and pain and anger as well as love and pride for our new arrivals
Don’t ask us what we need doing as we often have no spare energy to think of the things that seem obvious to everyone else
Send tiny clothes and soft toys for the babies to brighten up their hospital space
Write letters and cards that can be read to the babies and perhaps tell them who you are to them
Although you may not be able to visit the babies you can visit the parents in the hospital for a chat and a cup of tea, to break up their day
Posh handcream – I have never washed my hands so many times in all my life!
Cook them a meal or take them out for food
Give them time and space when they bring their babies home to get used to being a family
Don’t be offended if you are asked not to visit for a while
Keep on sending messages of support but don’t always expect something in return just know that your messages are wanted, needed and warmly received. Thank you x